Many times when I talk to clients about forgiveness, I prepare for their reaction and brace myself.  Why, because many of us believe that in order to forgive, we must no longer hold the other person responsible for their violation of us, or hurtful treatment of us.  We believe in order to forgive that we must let […]

Poem: I do my thing

I do my thing and you do yours. I am not in this world to live up to your expectations; and you are not in this world to live up to mine. You are you and I am I, and if by chance we find each other…it’s beautiful. Frederick Perls. Know this.  You will NEVER be […]


  I’m o-k; You’re O-K.   This is the sentiment behind a person who is assertive.  Being assertive is imperative when talking to, or care-fronting, someone you love.   “I am not trying to control you, I am not trying to ignore your needs, I am listening to you.. because I care, and I need the same in return.  […]

It is what it does.

I am surprised that this was not my first post because I often say this quote (“It is what it does”) which I adapted from Forrest Gump “Love is what love does.”    The “It” is an action.  Compassion is what compassion does, character is what character does, responsibility is what responsibility does, and so on.  A person […]